Originally Posted by wanttobehealthy

This is going to be a long term thing with him I think. He's going to play the "okay so I planned badly and didn't communicate, but you shouldn't punish the girls by not having them spend time with me bc of it" card...

And a part of me agrees. I don't know that a court is going to agree with me that his behaving in a respectful manner and responding timely to visitation issues is more important that the time he would spend with the girls. I feel like he's going to wind up able to screw with me like this and have it legally sanctioned...

Anyone experience your xA behaving this way where the kids were concerned and visits etc... and have a court say that the A had to communicate in a timely manner or tough luck?

I don't want to punish the girls, but living like this-- on my toes, jumping when he said jump and everything having to be about his time line is how I lived in our marriage. I can't deal with it now.