Originally Posted by
m1k3 
I didn't even realize that I could choose to leave util I hit a point where the pain of staying was worse than the pain of leaving. It was like a light bulb turning on. I went from trying to deal with the situation to I'm leaving. I was moved out 3 weeks later. That was 5 months ago. It has been scary, lonely and much, much better than it was when i was still with her. I'm not sure where I go from here but now that I have the time and breathing space to work on my recovery it doesn't matter. I know one thing though and that is I am not going back.
Your friend,
i think that's what it will come down to for me.... when staying becomes more painful than leaving. i guess i just feel bad that he's laid off from his union and without my pay check he could lose his house (my name is not on it.....that might be a good thing). but i know in my heart that i can't keep staying out of pity.