I'm struggling with that line between "he'll do what he'll do" (which is fine relative to how he is with me) and "protecting my kids". I have no "evidence" that he's unsafe other than anecdotal observations that tell me he isn't attentive and that worries me a lot. D3 is feisty and he has a VERY short temper with her and I worry about his lazy attitude toward anything involving responsibility and what that means for the girls when he's with them alone.