Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
I really don't trust his judgement or his ability to put his laziness aside and step up and do what parents should with their kids...
This was something I had to accept about my AH and it took me a long time to do that and yes, my kids are older so that makes the safety concern easier. Once safety is out of the picture AH is responsible for the kind of dad he wants to be and I am responsible for the kind of mom I want to be.
It's a hard journey but the more I take care of myself, the easier it gets.