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Old 09-16-2011, 01:26 AM
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JenT1968
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I've been through similar things WTBH. You are a great mum, you handled that just perfectly and I'm going to file away some of your phrases for the next time x tells the kids that he is cancelling because I am making it too difficult for him to see them (you know, by delivering them to his door, picking them up twice a week, no matter what crap he hurls at me, by agreeing that he can more time with them, contingent on him passing an alcohol hair strand test, by swapping the arrangements at the 11th hour because he is "ill", "tired", etc).

I try to keep in mind that it is not our job to protect them from pain, or anger, or other difficult emotions, because life will hurl situations at them that prompt those feelings more and more as they grow into independent people. Better, our job is to help them develop the tools to deal with those emotions and difficult situations and people. and yes, their father should be doing that too. But they've got you, and you are doing a wonderful job. (())
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