Originally Posted by
soberlicious 
Why do some people have an AV and others don't? Not everyone who drinks becomes addicted to alcohol...so why does the beast manifest in me, but not my mom for instance? What makes us different?
I'm interested in hearing everyone's thoughts on this.
To be honest, I don't know, but until medicine comes up with a way to kill it, I think that to waste time trying to find root causes for drinking instead of quitting is dangerous. More than a few have wasted years in psychotherapy trying to find the underlying issues that they thought were leading them to drink, with little success.
I have a good idea of why I thought alcohol was so nice at first, but over time, the original reason became largely irrelevant. Eventually, the addiction just fed on itself, and reasons did not matter anymore. I didn't even need a reason to drink, but I certainly needed one to stop.
My advice: quit first, and worry about issues and causes once securely abstinent.