StarCat

Why are you sorry?
You are an important person.
You are the one looking for answers in your life.
The more you talk about you on this forum, rather than focusing on others' problems, the healthier you are.

There is no shame in taking care of yourself.
Besides, if you drain yourself dry taking care of others, then you're no use to anybody anyway.
The healthier you are, the more useful you are to the universe, too - and that doesn't happen if you deny yourself your own self-care.


The disease of an addict is to put their addiction in front of everything else, until it is the most important thing in their lives.
For alcoholics, this is alcohol.
For drug addicts, this is their drug of choice.
And for the rest of us, this is the alcoholic/drug addict, where we put all our energy into trying to save them, while we ourselves waste away into nothing but a bundle of raw nerves, ready to jump through the roof at a moment's notice.

So in this context, talking about yourself is putting down your drug of choice (the addict and all the associated drama).
If that makes any sense?


I once heard someone refer to addiction as "Suicide on the installment plan." Truer, sadder words were never spoken.
Addiction is a horrible disease.