Please welcome this neophyte into the secular fold. I have particularly enjoyed pm contact with SoberJennie and AVRT. I also find that the level of discussion to be much more stimulating here than what I find in some of the other forums.
I am still learning about myself (age 54) and my past addiction has been the motivation to do so. I have learned that my 'locus of control' (please google for definition) explains so much about my personality, including why AA is anathema to me.
I have found my solution in AVRT and RR. REBT is also intriguing to me, and I am also reading John Kabat-Zinn and Eric Tolle, as well as Trimpey. This self discovery journey is an ideal project for the newly sober (23 days with no end in sight) me. Thanks to all for continued support and motivation.