Jazzman- While I appreciate your advice, I will say this: #1. I didn't assault him, I defended myself since he was holding me and wouldn't let go and #2. I will kick him again if he ever physically touches me again. He wouldn't let go of me and I kicked him to get him to let go. #3. Our D's were hitting him to get him to let go so I think all things considered my kicking him in front of the girls was the best option.
I fully understand your response here, my partner kicked out at me recently and I had all on to restrain myself, and me being the man-I would have a difficult time explaining any retaliation. It is so hard to walk away in the middle of physical and verbal abuse, but walk away we must-for our own sanity not to be sucked into the madness any more.