Originally Posted by
Linkmeister 
It is causing me stress but the upside of that is that I have the recovery tools to cope - tools I didn't have before but am grateful to the EX for because being in a relationship with him led me to AL-Anon and to SR.
Link, I love this line. When I look for the lessons in this painful mess, I keep coming back to this one. I have tools now that I didn't have before. And that makes me a stronger, more balanced person.
And. because several of us have grown quite fond of this, I have been watching Madea's Let Folks Go video each morning since I got the email Saturday. It helps remind me to not get into the funk, nor believe the crap he said about me that morning, which was downright ugly. I married someone who was supposed to be in my life for only a season and I spent a lot of time trying to force him to be a root.
Madea - let folks go - YouTube