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Tuffgirl So tonight I sit here in my living room, watching the yellow leaves swirl around my back deck, and feel strangely relieved. Sad that he chose this path, disappointed that my dream for marriage didn't even remotely come true, but relieved that I can look back on the last 4 years and know I did the best I could. Oh sure, I wasn't perfect. But I did everything with the best of intentions and with as much grace as I could. I loved, regardless of the outcome. I took a leap of faith and that makes me a courageous person.
Hey Tuffgirl... ^^^^ That right there... is Al-anon recovery at it's finest. I LOVE all the responsibility that you have taken for YOUR stuff. That's it. That's all we can do. I get it. I so get it. I too am taking responsibility - I know I have not been perfect. I own my stuff - and I'm working on it. That's it. That's all I can do.
I admire your courage and strength. You inspire me.