I wish I could say something to him (jail phonecall) which would "make" (yup, I'm a control freak I guess...) him realize what a mess his life was on drugs before arrested, and that "NO" he cannot manage his life without help...
He's in jail. If he doesn't realize his life is a mess now, you can't "make" him realize it. Sorry, there are no magic words. If there were, why would we all need this Site?
My heart aches for you. Please take care of yourself. That you CAN do.