I don't know this whole story.
But I know what it is to be an alcoholic.
It's not a choice.
It doesn't become a choice...
until it's life or death.
Now, that ... I know.
I also know a newly-diagnosed diabetic
will not like
being confronted with
all the foods they're no longer allowed to have.
It's a form of torture
to watch others enjoy a food that you also love
but cannot have because of fatal allergies.
This , too I know first hand.
A diabetic who is farther down the road
with living with their disease
and has become comfortable established
in the new life they must now lead
can be around the foods they cannot have
and tolerate others enjoying it.
But not at first.
At first, it's a misery.
And like it or not-
A diabetic cannot share their insulin.
Since I don't know this whole story
I do not take a position of 'right or 'wrong'
only a position to be sure
that a perspective as yet unmentioned
is mentioned
and made clear.
My opinion is for the position
of those who regularly come to SR
and only lurk and read.
I think about the lurkers a lot
because sometimes theirs...
are the hardest stories being lived.
So hard
they can't even talk about it yet.
SO-
I don't know this whole story
But I have LIVED the other side of this story
and know it intimately
from an alcoholics point of view.
Just felt the need to balance the perspective a bit.
There's a disease at work that is bigger than hurt feelings.
Congratulations on Alanon
I hope you find the answers you're looking for.