Originally Posted by
wanttobehealthy 
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Oh and as I have said, I am not working right now (though I am actively looking) and last night I was told what a failure I am; I failed at marriage, I failed at being kind enough to make him feel comfortable being vulnerable with me, I failed at my career and I am a failure as a mother. That's the last I heard and walked away but those words are eating at me right now and I'm trying to hold back the tears right now.
It might help you to understand that these words are coming from a desperate man that is following the voice of addiction despite all that he is losing. When people are in that space their words are a projection of themselves. I don't believe for one minute he really believes any of that about you. I believe that he is projecting that onto you because it is a reflection of himself.
His addiction is winning over him - but not you - and it is driving him crazy.
Hang in there. This is one of the hardest times and I promise, it does get better.