I am going forward with a divorce from my AH. I think that if he were to quit drinking and go into recovery I don't think I would stay/go back with him. There has been too much hurt. He is also a verbal abuser.
I would for the sake of hoping he would get better for himself put the divorce on hold, but I don't think I would be able to stay with him.
Last year I took him back because he wrote a suicide letter and my son read it and I thought he was really going to do it.
So know, with all the lies and manipulation I don't think that I would if he quit drinking.