Most of the time I can handle all the negativity that my H can dole out........it is when I cant and I finally have had enough of his sarcastic BS that I say something back to him.........I regret when I do........I may say one thing get my point across.....and then he will go on for hours.........following me around .ect.ect. he says that now you started something and now that you got me mad this is what you get..........