((((SNH)))) I have been thinking about you...and Amber....thanks for the update.
Oh, I feel your pain. Her life is spiraling out of control and you are feeling like you can't breathe. Yes, I have been there....I AM there...my son just recently told me he's been smoking heroin. I have been watching his addiction issues for 5 or 6 years now and no matter what I do they just keep getting worse. We offered him rehab and he's there now, but still quacking like an addict, so I don't hold out much hope.
So, I have been where you are and you will learn at your own pace just like I have. I am certainly not telling you what to do, just offering a bit of advice. I think that for your own sanity and peace of mind you need to step way back....again....and stop taking her calls. I certainly don't think you should go to court with her next week and show your "support". What exactly are you "supporting"??? If she were embracing recovery and showing signs of remorse, then MAYBE .... but none of that is happening.
Her bottom is coming up quickly -- next she may lose her job. Who knows what's next. Time to give up your front row seat. It's what is best for all concerned.
I am so very sorry. I just can't say that enough. (((((Hugs)))))