YellowBird, you took the first step - the hardest step- in meeting with an attorney and protecting yourself. Your story sounds alot like mine as well, with the lies about appointments ect. I can only tell you that after the first step, each step after that becomes easier and you will be more confident. So put one foot in front of the other, and step away from his craziness and towards peace for yourself. It is the only way to get through something like this.
Watch out for your AH to now change tactics and become Mr Nice Guy, he may promise you everything you ever wanted and dreamed for. I think you are doing great! Do something nice for yourself today and enjoy the quiet that is your home. Keep posting, keep stepping -