Hey:
"No one is powerful enough to ruin our lives. It's just not possible. If our lives are not what we want them to be, it is a result of our own choices."
You'll note I put "ruin" in quotes!
But all the same, living with an alcoholic is damaging. You can leave and recover from it all, but it's damage all the same. Let's not blame the victim.
Yeah, it was silly to search him out instead of enjoying the lovely day, but I still think the guy had it coming. Probably about damn time someone bit his head off.