Hi Freethinking. I have found some social value in going to agnostic meetings, to be sure, but for a therapist to 'force' a 12 step program on you seems a tad dogmatic!
I have been looking at revisions of these step programs, such as The Spiral Steps, which I am journalism in a separate thread...they have 13 steps. Another version, outlined in the book, 'Many Roads, One Journey:Moving Beyond the Twelve Steps, has a 16 step variation. These are largely designed to workaround the various aversions people have to the religious, sin/redemption defects/removal paradigms found in the steps, and ways to replace them with more positive, less guilt-ridden approaches. I have found it immensely helpful, and they can be used in conjunction with everything from cognitive psychology to Zen, and points in-between, from Atheism to anarchy.
Good luck in your journey, and remember: there is no one way that id right for everyone.
"Only a fool and water follow the beaten path where it leads them."
-Me, I think, while pondering from Tao texts