Yes its possible to drink alcohol without abusing it. I am a social drinker.
wywriter,
Alcohol is not killing him.
He is using alcohol to kill himself.
It could be any other substance.
I stopped blaming the bottle- its just a bottle with some liquid in there. It is the person who can use it to go with pasta at lunch, period, or can abuse it for the Nth time and hurt himself or herself, and the family witnessing the destruction... and do many other things afterwards, with abusive words, actions...
If you have a real life support system, I suggest resorting to them... I sense you are feeling lonely
Hope you feel better tomorrow ((hugs))