Hwsm,
Do you need A-Anon? My experience is this. I left my AW and put 99% of the chaos and craziness behind me. But like you I was still experiencing all sorts of unhealthy thoughts and behaviors. Once I got the concept that al-anon is not about the A or my learning about how to live with an A, but about me healing from all scars of living a dysfunctional life and started to work the program that my life actually began to improve.
I can honestly say that I am in a much better place now. As one old timer said to me, as long as I feel better walking out of those doors than I did walking in I will keep coming. I feel the exact same way now.
Your friend,