Addicts lie so d@mn much, it becomes second nature to them. In the beginning, with aexbf, I spent way too much time trying to figure out what was a lie, and, what was the truth. Finally, I said, screw it, until proved otherwise, consider it a lie, worked for me. The end result? 80% of what he said was indeed a bald face lie.
As for the money issue for outpatient rehab, if it is coming totally out of his money, and, he is still contributing to the household while in his rehab deal, fine, if not, to me, it is not fine.
An addict can and will destroy another financially, unless, bounderies are set and stuck to.
Yes, I agree, refocus on you, and, keep posting, it will help.