Here's the thing about traditional marriages...
...they traditionally end in divorce.
The only thing that matters is what you need in a marriage, what he needs, and if you can both accommodate the same. If you can, your marriage may work. If you can't it likely won't.
Mrs. Cyranoak and I have put a lot of effort into not controlling each other, but accomadating each other when we can. When she's sober like she is now and I'm doing my Alanon thing, we do well. When one of isn't, we don't do well.
Take care,
Cyranoak
P.s. I'm talking needs NOT wants.