Originally Posted by
Tuffgirl 
And for a little bit more clarification on why I am thinking of this today - last night, in the midst of this argument, my RAH stated "I am not financially responsible for you". It hit me pretty hard. I thought that was part of the marriage deal. We would be financially "responsible" to each other. It felt like a big value violation for me...I mean...why be legally married if there is no financial benefit to it?
hmm.. this can be a catch 22. If the marriage is wonderful, then it can be what once was mine is now ours state of mind. Share and share alike. But if it turns out bad.. say one spouse is abusive, and that spouse makes more money or is the sole income to that marriage.. then, yikes, the dependent spouse can literally be "trapped" financially.