OK.
He is 'playing' with you in a 'typical' alkie way.
Time to contact your attorney and request that your attorney contact his attorney or him and state that ALL future contact is to go through your attorney.
Whether it is to see the children, pick up a tool, whatever. That there is to be no more contact with you, period.
This is plain harassment. There is a way your attorney can get that enforced and if your attorney says no, find another one.
He is being a typical alcoholic AZZHAT.
And until that can happen, you really NEED to do for you, is this:
Every time he opens his mouth, picture in your WHOLE MIND the BIG WHITE AFLAC DUCK going
QUACK QUACK QUACK QUACK
So that his words do not register with you.
These accusations are HIS PROBLEM, HIS PARANOIA, and HIS MANIPULATION. He is being mean and vindictive and there is nothing you can do to change him. However, you can change how YOU react to him.
I would also suggest you get some 'nanny cams' and place them in strategic places that they will record his WORDS and his ACTIONS. That is PROOF in any court.
J M H O
Love and hugs,