WTBH,
((((hugs))))
I'm so sorry this is going on however I am going to ask you something my son-in-law asked me when I was going through some big bs with my RAW.
Why are you surprised when the alcoholic acts like an alcoholic?
He acts the way he does because that is what he does. There isn't any reason for it. It's just the way it is. Don't treat him like an adult, don't expect him to do what he says he's going to do. If someone needs to be spoken to make sure you do it yourself. He is an A and will screw it up somehow. If you don't count on him to do anything you won't be disappointed.
So take a deep breath, relax, maybe go to a meeting tonight or do something nice for yourself and start over tomorrow.
One day at a time.
Your friend,