I hear ya Hayfmr. My AH went to the Dr. practically every other month it seemed. It was because of depression that he drank, it was because of grief that he drank, it was because of stress at work that he drank, it was because of the pregnancy issues I had that he drank... So many excuses except for the one real reason - he is an alcoholic. The truly sad thing is that our court system believed him and his attorney at the temp hearing; he now spends equal unsupervised time with our children. I have never prayed so much in my life! And, he really believes these things about himself so he keeps taking medication and keeps on drinking. Clearly not a good mix.