Originally Posted by
lillamy 
You can't do a thing. So don't.
When I was at my most desperate (and I haven't even told my counselor this), and AXH told me he was drinking because I never wanted to have sex (he was drunk off his a$$ most of the time and incapable anyway) I told him that I'd give him daily blowjobs if he quit drinking.
He chose drinking.
:rotfxko
I thought of making similar offers, but decided the consequences were just too overwhelming!
It was far more liberating to just back the heck off and stop trying to control my RAH.