It's nice to be able to sit down and have a rational conversation every once in a while, huh?
I would have done the same as you - bailed her out and kept her safe. Call me an enabler...its my kid...I don't care. But I also think letting her suffer her own consequences of her actions is important. Let her do the court thing, let her figure out what to do next with her life, let her continue to financially support herself. These are life lessons, albeit painful ones. But that's how we learn best - when it really hurts - right?!
Hang in there!
~T