This money boundary is interesting. I think as codies we are used to being the financially responsible ones in a relationship. I know I have all my adult life! Now, when I date, if the man asks me for any money at all for any reason I state quite clearly that if he wants to date me he must never ask me for money. Any money I have that I don't need to support myself is going to be used to help out my children and grandchildren! Also, the request for money will always cause me to ditch the guy as soon as possible! When I go to dinner with someone if the man has asked me, I expect him to pay and if I have suggested dinner, I always will grab the check. Fair is fair, but I won't be anyone's patsy any more.