My husband should have choices to.......and his choice would probably be to not have his new church find out he is an A.......Shouldnt he have the choice to tell people himself on his own time if thats what he choses to do????......for other people in my church to find out from this other person in alanon would not be fair to him.......he feels safe at this church.....he feels good there and no one knows us and he thought this was a new beginning....a new start......
I definelty wouldnt tell a cancer or diabetic group that my husband was having an affair with a women who was 6 months pregnant with her husbands child........(I dont think)
Is it really impossible to start over with a new slate.....