I also wanted to add that I had a small but strong revelation today about myself and my origninal question to this post: I am so much further ahead than the both of them-My ex and his gf. I am leaps and bounds ahead of them. I am overcoming my codependency issues and I feel stronger than ever. I feel like I have such a better understanding on life because of what I went through. My ex obviously still has to overcome addiction (if he even wants to) and then start to re-learn how to live life again. His gf has to go down the dark and gloomy, stressful, painful, heart renching road of being with an alcoholic before she gets out. Then she has to recover (if she even wants to). I feel so ahead of the game! Kinda like I know all the answers to the test and other peope don't!
This is a really good feeling. Truly a blessing to feel this way <3