Fedup- that's a good idea! I am in a state (nh) where there's fault based divorces & no fault... I was thinking that since his image matters so much he'd want to keep this out of court & be agreeable to what I ask for in a mediation. After his game playing w the RO I got worried about mediation & what he might try to do to be underhanded. I thunk I'll approach him w the idea you posed...
Tuffgirl- another good idea! I like it- let him think he's jerking me around
& do what I need to for me regardless.