tuffgirl- it's funny you mention that bc i've been trying to figure out what that 'string' is for ah. he is a HUGE image freak-- his image to the world matters a LOT... i don't know how to negotiate that into me having primary or sole custody... he will fight for the girls simply bc it will make him look bad not to. he will pretend $ doesn't matter and pretend he wants to do what is best for them (he's all talk and no follow through) just enough to make others believe he's a great guy and great dad but he won't do what he says...
i wish he were simple-- like if money mattered a lot to him-- i'd give him every penny we have if it meant he'd leave me and the girls alone for good... but that's not likely...
anyway, it's a good reminder TG that i need to stay aware of what motivates him and work around that...
controlling me and manipulation seems to motivate him... too bad i can't turn that into something positive...