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Old 08-08-2011, 08:54 AM
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Tuffgirl
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Thanks for sharing, Mike.

I've been thinking a lot about "success stories", and I know when I first came to this forum, I was desperately looking for some myself. I wanted to know if it is possible for a marriage to survive all this. What I found over the last 7 months here and 1 year in Al-Anon is the real success story is me.

Things changed in my marriage because I changed and my RAH changed because of the changes I was making (and I really used "change" a lot here!) but the point is nothing changes if nothing changes. So do something different!

Giving your wife consequences and the space in which to sort out her life, in her own peaceful way, may be the best gift you've given her.
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