Thanks for helping me understand. I get it now - my husband could never answer the question because there is no logical answer to the why of it. It's personal and I guess the why is different for each individual but you can't answer it until you've gotten to the other side. I understand the science of alcohol addiction re the brain but the psychological part is what had me stumped. I realize now that the craving is what drives people back. I'm getting a glimpse of why it's so hard. A person needs to do alot of work on themselves and fight the craving while they do it.
My dad quit drinking after years of bringing home a case of 24 every night. He never worked on himself though which is sad. I came out of there a mess and I'm still working on myself. We're all a work in progress.
Thanks for not taking what I asked as an attack. I'm not judging anyone. Thank-you for sharing.