They also looked happy.
duqld..
Keep doing what YOU like, finding out who YOU are, realizing what makes YOUR heart sing... when you are busy living, there's no way you'll torture yourself with such illusions and fantasies about how someone so destructive and toxic can magically become the Nicest Man In The World.
People are not "investments"... they are human beings.
If the man is sober, good for him. If he is still in the road to death, nothing you, or anyone else, can do about it.
You are free dear duqld. Its ok to be free of the past. Its ok to let him go.
There is abundance and good things for YOU, and nothing anyone feels or says or does or has or thinks, robs you of all the wonderful gifts you are given everyday and will be given in the future.
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Some great links to put things in perspective (its addressing the "new one")
http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...special-i.html
And if this most recent woman doesn't want to see him anymore or even be friends with him, it must be because she is jealous of the wonderful relationship you and HE have! It must be because he dumped her for you, and she's just not big enough to accept that. It couldn't possibly have anything to do with the WAY he did things or tried to blame HER for his behavior. It couldn't have anything to do with him LYING to her and using her, and having a hidden agenda of expectations that he told her she just wasn't living up to. Nope. That would be his old M.O. playing out again, and he was a changed man by the time he met you. So it couldn't be THAT.
You're special. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...pecial-ii.html
You don't have to worry about that, because you'll never get upset with him, and you'll never challenge him to be honest or to accept responsibility for his actions. SHE did that, and it was "controlling," but it'll be different with you, because you know better. And you won't need to worry about calling him on his behavior anyway, because he'll NEVER lie to YOU. He'll always be completely honest and upfront with you. He won't have to "forget" any promises he made to YOU. If he is inconsiderate, it won't be DELIBERATE, with you. If he lied to her or anyone else, it was because they drove him to it. With you, he won't withhold information, or distort the truth. He won't break fundamental relationship agreements with YOU. He won't HAVE to, because you'll be right there validating him 24/7, supporting him and telling him how he's so CLEVER and BRAVE.
You're special.