Sweeteewalls, I had cancer too and my AH was nowhere around to take care of me thank God for my adult kids! My AH dealt with my cancer by being drunk 24/7 for months to block out the realty of it and even told our neighbors I didn't even have cancer.
I wish you didn't live so far away I would come to help you out.
Try and take care of yourself and I'll be praying for you.