Haven't gone to meeting yet; it's at 8:00. I am a bit upset that I told my ABF about my plans. He asked me what I am doing tonight (he's working) and I told him. He said "Oh no! All they are going to try to do is get you away from me and tell you how horrible I am" etc. I assured him that I didn't believe that is how it works.
Later, while grocery shopping, the good little codie in me reared her head. I became quite anxious that I had made him mad (so lame!). I even briefly considered not going to the meeting. I called him and he said that he wasn't mad at me but he just wanted me to be aware that the "purpose of Al-Anon is to break up the non-drinker from the drinker". I responded that MY decision to start attending Al-Anon is to learn how to best live my life in an emotionally healthy manner. I told him that I do love him but his disease, no matter what state of recovery, active drinking, etc. he is in, will always be present in our lives. Ugggh. Stress that I don't need.
Maureen