Originally Posted by laurie6781

Don't you make the call. Give him the phone number of the SALVATION ARMY. They have and EXCELLENT FREE program. It works very well with those that WANT recovery.

Right now for you this is NOT a 'we thing'. This is a 'he thing.' Either he wants recovery or he likes his lack of responsibility and being able to drink more than he wants recovery.

Now where does that leave you? It leaves you with finding and counselor that specialized in Addiction and/or Alanon FOR YOU. These will help you decide for yourself whether you can 'accept' him just the way he is RIGHT NOW, and whether you can live the rest of your life in this situation.

No I am not advocating divorce or leaving him. I am advocating that you work on YOU so that you will come day be able to make 'informed', 'correct' decisions for YOU.

I hope you know that we are walking with you in spirit, so please keep posting to let us know how YOU are doing as we do care so very much.

Love and hugs,