I understand she is an adult and i have stepped far back from helping her when she needs/causes it...but my sis is not in the same place as i am and that is hard to handle. I try to explain to my sis all the stuff that has been said but she thinks that i just dont care.
I got a msg of her there a while after i posted this and she said "im just saying that i cannot look after mam on my own. That conversation we had just shows you dont care. I dont care what mam has done in the past but nobody deserves to be in pain like this. She cant even pick up the ashtray. She is mam and even if she doesnt go to get checked im defo gona not walk out and leave her ****** die like. I just dont get why its up to me. You could have at least offered earlier if i needed any help with getting her shopping or looking after her. If your just gona give me the bullsh!t about her taking an active or her life not me or whatever. Dont bother because im actully fed up in general"
That msg hurts me. I take care and look out for my sister and i just want to take her away from the situations she is putting herself in. I know i cant, all i can do is pass on the information, education and experiences i hold and then the choice is up to her. But she doesnt see the choices that she are making are the bad ones. I want to help her but i think, will i ever be able to make her realise that what she is doing is unhealthy for her? Or do i have to wait for her to be 'ready'? I would love for her to 'get it' but she thinks all i talk is crap and that i dont care. I defo do care, i care very much so but my MH cannot deal with dealing with my mother and for that reason i keep my distance and my sis feels alone in this situation becoz my mother has nobody there for her and i dont want my sis to feel alone but i dont know what to do about it, for her and my sake, never mind my mother. She has told me that she is going to have to spend the next few days there to care for mum and i feel sad for her.
Thanks for the replies. I dont really care about my mothers situation now really but i do very much so care for my sister. She is young, vunurable and suffers with MH difficulties, as do i and i want to lead my sis in the right direction. But i guess i am just powerless, aeh!
and sorry for the rant