KBHaze-
I woke up after a bad dream tonight (literally), but feel that the waking up from my relationship to the A in my life took a lot longer. I also struggled with that relationship about four years.
I have a lot of hope now, but it has changed over the years and for me this hope is realistic and is focused more on me than it is on my loved ones who struggle with addiction (a number of them).
I agree with the posts above. Individual counseling has helped me a lot, as has Al-Anon, and reading about the disease of addiction and co-dependency.
One of the biggest reliefs in my life has been to learn that I don't have to "rush" decisions and that I have the time I need to make sure i am making the right ones. I also have gained a level of trust for myself in not only how I make them, but when I have made them.