Originally Posted by
wywriter 
She's 7 1/2 months now...
I was raised by an alcoholic mother who is still extremely co-dependent, and it's really nice and valuable to be able to look objectively and see where all of my preconceived notions came from -- like the one that everyone else's happiness is more important than my own, for instance.
I guess the first step to finding your way out of a cave is to figure out where you are and how you got there 
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Yes. The kicker in alcoholic legacies is that this step, if it ever happens, tends to happen
after the next generation is already on the ground.
You have some good things to report - separate wing, new bicycle
, detachment, the aquarium
(I am also deep into this hobby) and some forward progress, from your own insights.
Sending encouragement,
CLMI