BobbyJ, ((((hugs))))
Yeah this sucks big time. But lets see if we can put a positive spin on this.
Where is the woman who used to be married to him?
She has matured, become strong, self sufficient and independent. She has grown and is growing in a positive direction and living the life that is right for her as she chooses it. She has become someone who accepts herself and reality for what they are and is working on if not already possessing serenity.
She is someone admirable.
Your friend,