WTBH, the wisdom of your post, the insight into yourself, and how you got where you are is brilliant. I seem to read a lot of wisdom on F & F. Your story is so much like mine, and you articulated it very well. All of our stories are often so familiar. It occurs to me from time to time that men and women are often similarly different. Not always, but often... the A's are men who start out fun, smart, and great to be with, and turn out very different. The women often start out just wanting to have fun and fall in love with someone like that, and wind up being wounded and wise.
Anyway... Great post... helpful to many, I'm sure.