no - sounds like you are trying to teach your daughter a better way to interface with you. hopefully what you are trying to instill will "hold" and not the "my way or the highway" of your parents/h.
keep up the good work - and don't forget yourself because you are not good to anyone else if you aren't good to yourself. how often we have heard that, but i am really hearing now more than ever since i began al-anon, etc.
cwohio