WTBH... This is a phenomenal thread. I'm right there with you girl. I'm grateful for you posting this as it helps me see where I am at and gives me great perspective and understanding on my feelings.
My AH said to me tonight... Albert Einstein said, "women marry men hoping they will change. Men marry women hoping they will not. So each is inevitably disappointed."
I wanted to say, "substitute codependents for women, and alcoholics for men... And then you have the truth." but I didn't bother. Either way, it's true.... We marry alcoholics hoping they sober up... And then realize that happiness lies within us... So WE change! That's the good stuff. Alcoholics want status quo... And then WE change... And the free ride is over for them.
I'm glad to see so much peace and serenity in your posts. You are doing amazing work on your recovery!!
Hugs to you girl!
Shannon