i agree with bell - perception is part of the mix - something i read said instead of referring to folks as "enablers", refer to them as "rescuers". makes all the difference in the world to me. boundaries and faith exude hope and positive images!!!
breec - i think most of us feel the same way - we were/are always last on the list and tend to get lost in the shuffle. YOU matter and you truly need to feel and believe that.
hugs to u - cwohio