No sugar coating opinions from this corner...sorry
My opinion and My opinion only is.....
Save it for some other day. She is an alcoholic and her mind has alot of
healing to do and detoxing. She is there to get help for her, not you!
They dont and cant think about what you want. They cant even take care
of themselves, thats why they are there.
Count how many "I's" you wrote in that letter...There is alot
It is about YOU and your recovery and it is about HER and her recovery
YOU need to work on YOU. and SHE needs to work on HER
Both of you need to heal, mentally, emotionally
Both of you need to educate yourselves
Both of you need space and time apart
Both of you are sick, You need alanon support groups to help you understand
your not alone, you can not fix her, you can not control her and you did not cause it
She needs to get sober and find her tools to get better
It is her choice to get better and stop drinking
It is your choice to get better and quit living in hell with an alcoholic
and learn to love yourself FIRST
Rehab is not a magic cure. It is only the 1st step to her recovery. And it might
not be the end to her drinking. They just give her tools. Just like Alanon gives
you tools. If you use them today or tomorrow, its your choice. Just like
it will be her choice to drink today or tomorrow.
Remember, she will always be an alcoholic. She might be a active or non-active
drinker when she gets out. She might go back & drink again in 6 months or 6 years
from today. Are you ready for that?....Soul search yourself and soul search your
life, wants and needs....It is about YOU, not her...
Read and read and EDUCATE yourself about alcoholics, hopefully you will understand
that writing the letter may be a waste of your time today.
Write it & Stick It Away, for you, to go back and read next month...
Keep a journal, it will help YOU alot more than you think it will
At this point, It's about YOU getting better without her
And it's it about HER getting better without you
Just my opinion from my experiance....